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When you are splitting up from your spouse and going through a divorce, the state of your mental health may be the last thing on your mind. Financial settlements, child care orders and new living arrangements may be taking up all the space in your head, but while all this is going on, your emotional well-being could be suffering. This can have longer-terms consequences so it’s important to know what you can do to reduce the effect of your divorce on your inner peace and mindset.

What causes poor mental health during divorce?

Sleep problems, phobias anxiety, depression, mood disorders and compulsive disorders are all examples of poor mental health. There can be a lot of drivers behind each of these. Getting a divorce can be one of the triggers or it can be something that exacerbates a pre-existing condition.

  • Facing a new life as a single person
  • Not seeing your children as regularly as you used to
  • Worrying about your financial circumstances now and in the future
  • Experiencing emotional or physical abuse
  • Managing finding a new home to live in
  • Feeling lonely and isolated
  • Divorcing someone with narcissistic personality disorder
  • A long and convoluted divorce process
  • Being distanced from your former ex’s family


How you can improve your mental health during a divorce

With the potential for so much conflict during a divorce, it’s also possible that you may experience two or more of these impacts at once. By taking the following steps, you can improve your mental health while going through a divorce:

Stay social

Although socialising and going out with friends may not seem an enjoyable prospect when you are going through a separation, staying connected to friends and family at the right time and when you feel like it, can help you come to terms with what is happening and help you realise you are not alone.

Make self-care No.1

Regular quality sleep, exercise and healthy eating are the foundation for strong mental well-being and happiness. Too much screen time, over eating/under eating and burning the candles at both ends are the antithesis of this. Together, a poor self-care regime will not equip you with the energy and mental strength you may often need during a divorce. Divorces can get complicated, challenging and draining. By prioritising your own health, you will be in a much strong position to make good decisions and take the right actions.

Ask for help

Divorces mark the end of a period in your life that you once embraced. It can signify the end of a wish you had for the future which can understandably make you feel sad and grief-filled. Sometimes, this feel can last longer than you expected and you may need support in helping you begin a new chapter in your life. A trained counsellor or therapist can help you explore your feelings, come to terms with the big change in your life and become more open to starting again. As well as emotional support, the help and advice of an experienced solicitor will also help alleviate the stress of your divorce. Having a legal expert to guide you through the process and steer you on what to expect during the proceedings can be a huge pillar of support when you are negotiating and navigating the legal

To summarise

Although many of us are aware of the perils of a divorce, it can be one of those milestones in your life that you don’t truly understand until you experience it first-hand. To prepare yourself for the range of emotions you may go through, remain open to support, prioritise the fundamentals of self-care and stay connected with your friends and family.